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Are you planning on going international? My favorite Europe experience so far has been Italy, specifically Capri and Rome. Both are obviously beautiful, have tons of amazing food and are very easy to get by as an English speaker, with little knowledge on Italian. If you’re traveling within the States, something I’m planning is a trip to Oregon. I’m a huge nature lover, and need to experience those waterfalls and mountains!
Hope that whatever you plan goes smoothly, and stay safe!
One of the biggest issues I’ve both seen in others and within my own relationships is feeling underappreciated due to different love languages. For example, say one partner’s language is acts of service and the other partner’s is words of affirmation. The second partner may become insecure because their partner doesn’t tell them they love them as often as they wish, or doesn’t surprise them with sweet texts/cards. This can easily frustrate the other partner who believes they shouldn’t need to do those to “prove their love”, when they keep the house clean for the both of them, take extra care of the pets, and do all the grocery shopping.
Both sides are overlooking how the other shows/wants to be shown love, which is why it’s so important to communicate these things. And, especially to communicate them outside of arguments. My current boyfriend and I have different love languages (words of affirmation and physical touch), and we very regularly touch base with each other on this. We have a conversation every two-or-so weeks about what we’ve appreciated from the other person, what ways we’ve made each other feel loved and secure, but also areas we can both improve. It helps us know what works for the other person best, and not have to just guess everything. It keeps us from having arguments/issues like given in the example, which can truly tear apart a relationship.
I appreciate you responding, Tai!
I’ve definitely had my fair share of escapism drop-offs. Usually in the form of a game or binging social media like TikTok, where I can convince myself “just a few more minutes” or “just one more video”. Then next thing I know, the sun has gone down. And I can definitely relate to the feeling of beating myself up internally for procrastinating extensively.
School subjects are especially difficult for me to motivate myself in if I don’t like the general topic. Sometimes, I can convince myself that I need the grade to move on and get closer to graduation, but even that isn’t always enough. It would definitely be beneficial for me to find a connection to the subject which helps actually peak my interest, like you suggested.
Thank you for your words of encouragement and tips! 🙂
I can relate with Ashley, in that quarantine took a turn different than expected due to my mental health.
Before I was able to find motivation to get active, I got myself indulged in art and baking. Both of these activities were an outlet for myself that helped me get through long, lonely days (and were fairly inexpensive). I discovered a passion I didn’t really know I had before, being acrylic painting.
While I’m still occupying much time with that, I did start getting into physical exercise these past few months of dealing with COVID. Something that has been really enjoyable is nature walks. While these are fun to go on with a friend, they are also very relaxing to just take yourself to. There are many youtube channels too which make great at-home work out videos without needing equipment.
Susan,
I’m so glad you replied. Your response was genuinely uplifting, thank you for sharing you experience! It’s so easy to be hard on myself over not doing “enough”. Feeling like a failure because I got a C instead of an A, because I purposely skipped an alarm or because I did the dishes but there are clothes all over my bedroom floor. I believe I should start recognizing the “little things” I do on a day to day basis to help keep myself afloat. While it might not always inspire me to do more than the minimum, it at least may help me feel proud of getting up and doing something. It’s a lot to ask for some days.
Also, it’s relieving to hear people don’t care about college GPA once you leave college. When I think back on high school, I laugh at myself for the things I let consume my mind and worried myself with. Hopefully in a few years time, I’ll be doing the same to myself now.
I can also sympathize with the pressure you all are under. My family did not celebrate Thanksgiving together, though my boyfriend’s family put a lot of pressure on us to attend. The two of us got sick the week before Thanksgiving, and both tested positive for coronavirus. His parents didn’t let up on this, still insisting we have a family dinner and pushing off the importance on quarantining.
I understand the frustration you all have experienced with similar situations, and to OP, I’m very sorry that they’ve pushed an ultimatum on you. That pressure reasonably will make you feel more distant, and feel anxious when they attempt to reach out continuously. My hope is that they will soon be able to understand and respect the boundaries which you’ve set for yourself.
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