Hello! I was wondering how people deal with being honest and vulnerable with someone they’re talking to. In an ideal world i could voice all of my concerns and needs, but as a textbook people pleaser, I don’t want to cause stress or uncomfort with the person i’m talking to. Thoughts?
One thing that helps me is talking to my friend before I talk to my significant other because talking to a third party helps me gather my thoughts. She also helps to validate what I’m feeling and reassure me that what I’m feeling is important and valid. This makes it easier to then go to my significant other because I feel reassured and confident in my emotions enough to talk about them fully.