This is such an issue, right?!? I have heard that switching your screen so that your video doesn’t show to yourself and reducing the size of other’s image so they aren’t “larger than life” can help. Even just hiding their video (while keeping yours on) so that it is more like a phone call for you can help. I wonder if making a separation of Zoom for work and FaceTime for family and friends (if feasible) would be a way to create a separation. Also, maybe always do work stuff in one place and fun stuff in another or use a fun virtual background to make it less serious when with friends and family. …Just some ideas. Hope you have some luck managing the anxiety.